As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.
Steve Job’s commencement speech at Stanford is one of my favourite sources of inspiration, I never got tired of reading it. In terms of finding what I love, I’ve been very fortunate. One of my two passions has turned into a career (creating websites), and another (tennis) has brought a lot of fun and good friends. If I could choose how I die, I would love to die while doing either of these.
Recalling the first day when I found my “true love”, I actually didn’t realize it was something I would love so much. I think the bit “you’ll know when you find it” takes some time to sink in. That length of time varies, definitely not “love at first sight”.
For many years, I still did not believe that I would make websites for a living, or keep playing tennis for life (16 years and counting …). I’ve never stopped questioning myself: Is this what I really love? Have I made the right choice?
The hint from the speech is: It would get better as the years roll on. So I guess the answer is “time will tell”. I’d hope that it applies to relationships too, and I wish I live long enough to see the answer.